Happy October! We’re enjoying a warm streak this week with temperatures in the seventies and eighties, and it’s just gorgeous. The leaves are changing, it’s just cool enough to wear long sleeves, and I’m dabbling in warm drinks. Life is good, and I’m feeling particularly thankful for my little family and this wonderful time of year. Lu is such a cuddle-bug, and Lily just told me she loves me to the moon and back when I put her down for nap, sooooo. Yeah. I’m one lucky duck.
Joshua took his eighth day of paternity leave yesterday and let me study up for my nutrition exam. It’s been so nice to have a few three day weekends and little more time with him. I sure am grateful for paternity leave. The rest of the country should hurry up and see the wisdom in offering fathers time to take care of and enjoy their newborns. It’s just so crazy to me how we don’t have better legal provisions for moms, dads, and babies. For all of the conservative focus on the family pandering, I hear mum about making it more financially and professionally feasible for parents to take time off and usher their little ones into this world. My heart just goes out to those moms who get no time or just a week to three weeks off, unpaid. And for all those dads, too. And babies! Imagine being swaddled in amniotic fluid one week and then dropped off at a stranger’s the next!
On a completely separate note, you may have noticed a couple of name changes going on around here. We’ve decided to slowly phase out our girls’ real names and bring in Lily for the eldest and Lu for the youngest. I’m done going back and changing to Lu, but it’s going to take me a while to change everything to Lily. Anyway, we decided to take a little more precaution with our girls’ internet footprint, so that’s why you’ll be hearing a lot more about Lily and Lu.
One of the things I’m thankful for these days is being able to nurse. It’s such a nice thing Lu and I share, and I know firsthand that it can be such a struggle for so many people. Recently, I’ve encountered mommies who have been quite militant about nursing and other mommies who have talked openly about their struggles with nursing, using formula, and then successes nursing with their subsequent children. Sometimes, I’m amazed at the self-righteous judgement people are willing to cast upon other parents. So while I’m thankful for this gift I’ve been given, and I do like that nursing in public is becoming more and more acceptable, I’m also hopeful that we can be more open and loving to all of the wonderful ways in which babies are cared for and fed.
Just a glimpse into my micro lab. I kind of love it?!
Just amazed by the changes in this little one’s face. Two months (bottom) to three months (top).
Soooo… You know how lots of parents say, “you can be whatever you want to be. You can be an artist! An astronaut! A ballerina!”
Yeah. We’re trying something different. We’re brainwashing Lily, and she’s going to be a scientist. She can be an artist too, but I’m thinking I’ll just encourage her to be an artist or a poet or a writer – what have you – in her free time. I will not be encouraging her to be a ballerina. Anywho. I’m sort of joking and sort of not. It’s kind of like with my students. I told them they were going to college. Are there other valid life choices? Of course. But there’s something to be said for positive messaging and high expectations, you know? A lot of people might assume that students from families with low incomes won’t go to college, so I thought it was important to have someone saying – rather adamantly – that they would. In the same way, I had people telling me I could be whatever I wanted to be, but I don’t think I took them seriously because it was almost too abstract. The narrative that girls didn’t make good mathematicians and scientists was less abstract. Even though I felt confident that I was smart and I could go to college, I never ever considered being pre-med because I was “bad” at and didn’t “like” math and science. Which is ridiculous really, because I never got anything less than an A in high school, and I think I didn’t “like” math and science because I couldn’t see myself as a mathematician or a scientist and the classes were harder for me.
So I’m telling Lily that she’d be a great scientist, and we’ll see where it goes. Should she decide that she wants to be a teacher or a lawyer or a mechanic, I’ll get behind that, too 🙂
More brainwashing, of course.
I hope they are good friends someday. For now, I’ll settle for Lily keeping her fingers out of Lu’s orifices.
The pregnancy hair hasn’t vanished quite yet. Maybe it will stay forever?
Lily and I went on a walk around the neighborhood the other night. It was a date, just the two of us. When we got to the park, I asked Lily if she wanted to get down and play, but she said, “no mommy. Lily, mommy walking. Cuddle, talk.”
As you might surmise, I was more than ok with that.
More mommy and Lily time on the front porch. Love this girl.
Is that…. A BABY in the laundry?!
Mommy and Lily hiking at Guanella Pass.
Friends that wear your baby are the best sort of friends 🙂 🙂 This morning was so great, you guys. We got into the car at 645, got up to Guanella Pass by 8, and Joshua and Will ran together while Val, Lu, Lilly and I walked together. It was gorgeous! Afterwards, we had lunch and then Joshua, the girls and I walked around Georgetown. It was a good day 🙂
Fort building later that day!
Miss Lu and me.
It feels like such a win when you pull off a meal with zero groceries that actually tastes good 🙂
I won’t go on with all the details, but I’ve been learning about fluids, etc in nutrition, and guys. Drink up. Seriously.