Some of my favorite Lily-isms from this past week:
“Dearest wife? May I have some pancakes?”
“It stinks like someone pooped.”
“Lu is ridiculous.”
“I need some assistance.”
“It’s a beautiful day. I bring the potty outside.”
“Oscar’s a naughty boy. Ate my ‘tato. Oscar like ‘tatoes, mommy?”
“Lu not eat lunch. Lu eat boobies.”
“No want anything in my hair. So long and pretty.”
In my last post, things were a little rocky, but I thought I’d come back to say that things are better again. I’ve been so blissfully happy this fall and winter that I wasaught unawares by that bump. I just have to remind myself that I set the tone. I’m the adult. I was responding to her outbursts with sadness and frustration, and then she was feeding off my sad/frustrated responses with more negative behavior. But the next morning she erupted over something and I kept it light, smiling and making a silly joke. She laughed, and the whole week unfolded with few mishaps. It’s really astonishing. Of course, I still get frustrated or feel like I’m not getting something quite right, but if I fake calm and ease, Lily responds positively, and we avoid that downward spiral.
Teaching, I tell you. These were all part of my tool kit: fake it til you make it, set the tone, keep it light, be the adult, and when all else fails, make a silly joke. Glad they’re coming in handy now that I’m the parent of a toddler.